Sameish

Find your village.
Similar where it matters.

A friendship and community app, built from a neuroaffirming perspective and open to anyone.

Other apps try to take the awkwardness out of meeting people. Sameish takes away the shame.

Open the app Have a look around first

Closed beta. You'll need an invite code to join — but you can look around without one.

Jo ~4 km away

Two kids · around weeknights and Saturdays

🤝 We get it

·Neither of you needs the other to pretend everything is easy
·Low-maintenance — months can pass, we pick right back up
·Neither of you is going to ring the other unannounced
·One-to-one is my happy place
·Also into craft — which you are not, which is arguably the point

No compatibility score. There never is one.

Why no percentage

“94% compatible” is a judgement, not an introduction.

It claims a precision no set of questions has earned, and it gets people arguing with a number instead of looking at a person. So Sameish never shows one.

Instead you get sentences, and only sentences that are true. If two people don't have much real overlap, it says so rather than inventing something flattering. A reason it can't stand behind isn't shown at all.

The point

Think of the café that already has headphones on the counter. Nobody had to ask.

You don't declare anythingThere's no box to tick that says what you are before you're allowed in.
You don't explain yourselfCancelling, going quiet for a month, needing a quiet table — all normal here, not something to apologise for.
You don't perform"Neither of you needs the other to pretend everything is easy" is something the app will actually say to two people.
You don't ask for the accommodationIt's already in how people were matched, so it's there before you arrive.

Enough, not identical

Alike enough to click. Not a copy of you.

A matcher that just adds up similarities drifts every list toward people who are the same as you, which is neither interesting nor how friendship works.

Sameish actively penalises two people being too alike, and it will happily tell you someone is into something you're not — “which is arguably the point”.

Families

Children are never on the platform.

A child never has an account, never signs in, and is never searchable. The parent adds, controls and deletes everything, and adults connect with adults on behalf of their families.

Anything you note about supporting your child is shown to nobody — not another family, not after matching, not to an administrator. Two families can both be having hard days, both see “We get it”, and neither has disclosed a thing.

Who it's for

Anyone who has ever found this harder than it looks.

Sameish isn't an app for parents, and it isn't an app for neurodivergent people. It's an app where none of that has to be declared before you're welcome.

The person with three kids and no spare evenings belongs here. So does the person with no children at all who is simply particular about how they socialise, and the one whose whole life is one oddly specific hobby. If it narrowed to one group it would become a support service, and it isn't one.

Where it's up to

Closed beta, honestly labelled.

Sameish is small and new. It's being built carefully rather than quickly, because an app that guesses at why two people might get on would be worse than no app at all.

If you have an invite code, come in. If you don't, you can still look around as one of the example members and see exactly how it works.